People feel lonely, they need somebody to fill their loneliness. They call it love. They show love because that is the only way to hook the other. The other also calls it love because that is the only way to hook you. But who knows whether there is love or not? Love is just a game. Real love is possible, but that happens only when you don’t need anybody but not when you wanted to fill loneliness!
If you go to a bank and you need money, they will not give you any. If you don’t need money, you have enough. But still they will come to you and they will always be ready to give you because they needed you to be with them for benefits of bank.
When you don’t need a person at all, when you are totally sufficient unto yourself, when you can be alone and tremendously happy, then love is possible. But then too you can be certain about only one thing: whether your love is real. How can you be certain about the other? But then there is no need.
This continuous anxiety — whether the other’s love is real or not — simply shows one thing: that your love is not real. Why be worried about it? When you are in Love with someone, you are giving Love to them but not in a mutual agreement of give and take. It is not even an agreement that you give love provided you get that back. This happens with many so called lovers who are not in Love but say themselves they are in Love. There are no expectations in Love. There are no restrictions in Love. There are no conditions in Love. There are no painful adjustments or regrets. But when can you give this kind of Love? you can only give this when you are content with yourself. But as a human when can a man be content with himself? When he attains wisdom, knowledge and character. Love is not about choosing 10 people and selecting one of them. funnily that would be interviewing and shortlisting for a position called spouse. True love happens but not the immediate moment or every moment you find opposite sex interesting.
Behind declarations of love there is nothing but need to fill loneliness. You want your lover to be with you to fill your emptiness and so too is the case with her. You are both trying to use each other as a means. That’s why lovers, so-called lovers, are always in conflict — because nobody wants to be used, because when you use a person the person becomes a thing, you have reduced him to a commodity. Nobody even want to be in unsecured zone thinking what if other person may find someone else to fill their loneliness, and the former would become alone. This kind of insecurities, Selfishness, loneliness keeps on wrong meaning of love. One day when you are really awake and look around yourself truly you will be able to love — but then you will be certain about your love only. But that’s enough! Love is about loving someone your heart beats for, it’s not about loving only the one who can love you back. Do you love yourself? Are you ready to love someone Unconditionally without any returns? You have not even asked the question.